How to Emotionally Prepare for Life Abroad (Not Just the Visa)

Lina Gabbaoan
Apr 14
2 min read

Updated: Apr 24

“I thought the hardest part was getting the visa. But then I arrived... and everything changed.”

Moving to Europe on a Schengen, partner, or family reunification visa is a major milestone, but what comes after can feel surprisingly heavy.

While most resources focus on documents and legal steps, very few talk about the emotional transition of migration:

Identity shifts
Cultural adjustment
Loneliness
Relationship pressure
Feeling like a guest in someone else’s world

This blog is for you if you're planning to migrate soon — or you're already here but feel like you're still emotionally packing your bags.

What No One Tells You About Life After Migration

1. You May Grieve Your Old Life

Even if you were excited to move, it’s normal to feel a loss of your culture, routine, family, and sense of belonging.

"Why do I feel sad when I should be happy?"

Because you're human. It’s okay to miss what you left behind.

2. Your Relationship Might Shift

Moving in with a partner in their country can create power imbalances, language barriers, or even resentment. You may become emotionally dependent or feel lost in their world.

This is especially common for partner visa holders. It’s not your fault, but it helps to prepare.

3. You Might Struggle With Identity

When you're no longer working, surrounded by your culture, or speaking your native language, who are you?

This can lead to emotional shutdown or self-doubt, especially for high-achieving women.

4. Cultural Misunderstandings Are Real

From “hi” kisses to food to parenting styles, cultural friction can happen even with love and good intentions.

Learning emotional intelligence across cultures is a superpower and something I help clients develop gently.

How to Emotionally Prepare, Not Just Logistically

Have open, awkward conversations with your partner now Talk about chores, expectations, money, and future kids; don’t wait until you're there and overwhelmed.
Start creating your support system early Find communities online or in your future city before you land.
Acknowledge the emotional work migration will bring This is more than a move. It’s a transformation. And you deserve guidance.